Whatever happens, happens for good

Is it insolance? or sheer ignorance?

2009-05-16T05:58:00.000-07:00

It was a long wait, thankfully I was carrying a couple of magazines and a book with me to occupy myself. I was feeling happy that I did a right thing by bringing books along with me as there couldn't be a much better entertainer than a book. But I was grossly mistaken! How did I ever allow myself to think that way?! Just to prove my point wrong, I had the pleasure to be in the company of three other young ladies, or should I say girls?

One of them looked like she was from Mizoram (MG). She looked at the other girl(G2), and said "You are pretty." G2 (giggles) and replies "Thank you"
MG: You are from this place?
G2: Yeah I am
MG: Oh ok... interesting... you are a native of this place?
G2: No, I am basically from Gujarat (giggles)
MG: Oh! that is why! (and both of them start giggling like they have had a shot of laughing mushrooms.)
G3 to MG: "You are having a Boy friend right?"
MG: (Surprised and blushing like there is no tomorrow) How do you know?!
G3: Simple! You are pretty, and pretty girls do have boy friends!
MG: (Blushes even more) Yeah I do have one, But how do you know??!!
G3: mmmm... Let me guess his name... It starts with A?
MG: (eyes go wide) How the hell do you know???!!!
G3: (giggles) I am good at reading faces and his name ends with SH right?
MG:Wow! you are amazing!

Huh?

2009-03-05T02:25:00.000-08:00

The phone started ringing. I pick up the phone and...

Me: Hello

Mr. X: Hello

Me: Yes?

MrX: 6702

Me: What?

MrX: Ahnnnnnnnnn...

Me: I don't get you. I guess you have called the wrong number.

MrX: Ok. Right ma.

Click.

The best thing to do on a Valentine's Day?

2009-02-17T02:45:00.000-08:00

Friend: Izhuthu pothindu nalla padhuthu toongaradhu. It is the best day to catch up with my sleep, coz not many people would disturb me on that day" :-P

Today

2008-04-18T11:23:00.000-07:00

Today I got up in the morning and got on with my routine work. Nothing unusual happened. It was perfectly like any other day, starting with a nice workout in the morning, a nice chat with a friend, lunch, then a book to pass the afternoon, spent the evening playing, did some work and finally ate and slept.

But was the day so normal for that person?

For the blind man sitting in the railway station, selling odds and ends to make a living? I was walking with my friend and would have almost missed him, if not for the long red striped white stick beside his wares. I paused in front of him for a moment, in fact for several minutes but moved to a safe distance, so that I don't disrupt the crowd that was desperate to reach home as soon as possible after possibly a tiring day. He was crying his throat out to catch the attention of the people who seemed desperate to catch the earliest train possible . Finally after about 10 minutes, a small lady stopped beside him;
"What is the price of the comb?"
" 2 rupees ma'am"
"2 rupees?? It is only worth 1 rupee."
This way, she continued haggling with him to reduce the price. Finally the blind man resigned to his fate and agreed upon her terms.
Probably it is normal... leading their life this way is the most normal thing for them.

Innocence personified

2008-04-14T10:58:00.000-07:00

There is a little boy in my neighborhood, he once fell down and told his mother
"Amma, there was blood on the sand and while I was playing with the sand, it got all over my legs"

Ethics redefined?

2008-03-30T05:02:00.000-07:00

India in the future would probably not have any semblance to what India was in the past. The West admires our tradition, our culture to which we have scant respect. The radical change that has happened in India in the past 7 years is more than what happened in the past 30-40 years. For example, most of the 20 year old would not have known how a computer looked some 15 years back, but a 15 year old these days can hack protected accounts. We are changing ourselves to stay in touch with the current situation but still something within us (probably our traditional roots) restrains us from changing and we end up acting inappropriately to the situation. We have all become victims of active inertia.

Gone are those days, when parents were concerned about their children opting for intercaste marriages and inter religion marriages, though the concern is still there in our society, people are more worried about inter nationality marriages. Not far away are those days, when parents would seriously try protecting their children from homosexual marriages, signs of which are already seen in the society. What does the future hold for us? Probably the future generation would have to deal with inter species fusion? :-?

Moreover there is a paradigm shift in the way people see "marriages" these days. Marriage essentially was a unique, special relationship sanctified by fire. The low divorce rate in India in itself is an evidence of the sanctity that is attached to this divine relationship. But divorce rate has been increasing over the years. Women feel suppressed, they revolt, they are not willing to compromise in a relationship and the menfolk I feel have adjusted a lot but they wouldn't go beyond a point which has lead to an increased number of divorce cases registered. I agree, women have been treated very badly both in the past and in the present, but is it right on the part of a women to generally show their resentment on every other guy in the society? Aren't they hurting themselves by doing so? Women are known for their patience, but where has that gone? Is it the Influence of western culture or the increase in the literacy level among women that has resulted in this change of attitude? Loyalty and responsibility are among some of the important virtues that are slowly fading away from the society. Marriage has practically become a farce!

Long time

2007-11-25T11:08:00.000-08:00

It has been more than a year since I blogged and what a year it has been! Every year seems to be more packed than the previous one. The surrounding in general seems to have undergone a lot of change and all of a sudden, the world somehow seems to be a complex place to live in. There seems to be a shift in the pattern of lifestyle among the younger generation, for instance they seem to prefer being indoors during the evenings. Every Diwali seems to be quieter than the previous one. In a way it is good,probably it is not that dangerous to go out during Diwali these days, but then Diwali is kind of a socializing activity. Bursting crackers along with friends or cousins creates a kind of bonding and a friendly rivalry between two groups :D. One of my prof. during the course of a lecture commented, in a way I am happy that I am 67 years, the world used to be a simpler place to live in, during my times. Probably I would feel the same way when I am 67 years :-?
Anyways, I have a long way to go before I am 67! And the road ahead seems to be interesting.

An interesting night out? (huh? interesting?)

2006-10-30T11:17:00.000-08:00

Argggggghhhhhhh!!!!!
It was one of those days.One of those days when you get really frustrated, for you have nothing to do.... All day long I was deemed to spend time with myself. I wanted to do something, but at the same time had no mood to do anything, but still tried doing something and ended up doing nothing. Was blaming my college, for it was closed and I missed going there :-|
What a day!!
Finally at 8 in the night I decided to go out for a walk, I felt that at least a whiff of the fresh air would make me feel better, I had no clue as to what was going wrong within me.
I finally got out of my house and started walking aimlessly, I came across a narrow street that I had never noticed before. I was skeptical about going that way for it was very dark, but finally I made up my mind to "explore" that street. I was surrounded by darkness and a deadly silence as I went deeper down the street, suddenly I heard dogs barking behind me, I turned and to my utter dismay saw a few dogs running towards me. I panicked and screamed! luckily a couple of guys in a bike came that way and chased those dogs away. I was surprised!!! I turned around and started walking back. Did I actually shout?! My goodness! was it me who shouted?! For it is not in my nature to shout like this, I was immersed in these thoughts that from behind I heard a voice, I turned around to see who it was, it was them, the ones who helped me out. Oops! I had forgotten to thank them! :-| I was about to say "thank you" when they offered to stand guard until I crossed that place. I was a little embarrassed, I said "No thank you and thanks for the help :)" and started walking.
I was wondering about what had just happened that I came across a temple, I was surprised! It was 8:30 in the night and actually a temple was open?! I became really over-enthusiastic and thought "why not go inside? it is days since I stepped into a temple", but I was really skeptical, for none of my friends who are temple freaks had mentioned about this temple and in my josh, I lost all my logical reasoning and decided to go in. The surroundings of the temple gave me the creeps, it was peculiar, and the people I saw over there looked totally different and then I noticed that the person who was doing the poojai was not wearing the cross band and slowly I became aware of the strange looks I was attracting. I was the object of interest rather than the deity, I guess they were workers.... they continued staring at me. I felt like I was in an alien land, surrounded by creatures to whom I looked alien. I immediately came out of that place and hurried towards my home.
My home sweet home!
The night made my day complete! :-D

Am I "Left" out?

2006-05-17T12:24:00.000-07:00

I don’t know whether it is a handicap of mine or simply a weakness or is it certainly a quality that I must not posses? or is it something bad I had been doing all this while just because some of the elders in my family oppose me for doing it? Whatever it may be I instantaneously, start disliking people especially those gossip mongers who start advising me with no apparent concern.

When I was a small girl….. say 3 years….. My Great Grandma was alive then, about two years ago she passed away………. She tried changing my habit…… my mother never had a problem with the way I was/am so does my father or uncle or my grandma, But my Great Grand Ma was too skeptical about it, that is about me being a left hander…… She used all possible ways within her means, she even went to the point of threatening me, that I would be swallowed by a ghost if I don’t change my ways….. I still remember the way my uncle came to my rescue….. he was particularly very happy about the fact that I am a left hander for he was also one and he was forced to change his habit and he didn’t want that to happen with me…..

I grew up enjoying compliments and enduring all sorts of absurdities both from people who care about me and those gossip mongers but then surprisingly my parents had no problems with me being a left- hander. Sometimes when somebody with an air of self-importance around them start advising me with the illusion of doing a great service to me, my parents and some of the others used to ask them to buck off .

Eating in a marriage hall used to be the worst thing of all, people wont allow me to eat properly, some of them would stare at me with awe and wonder some of them with reproachful eyes, If I am successful in ignoring their stares and start eating to my hearts content, there sure would be some crackpots who would make it a point to come and ask me as to why I am eating in my left-hand and you can surely count on at least two of them to stop by your table and give you their "valuable advise"……..

But slowly times changed, I started reacting differently to these people who advised me, I used to politely ask them to get lost, then too if they persist on advising me, I point-blankly used to ask them to mind their own business and save their advise for somebody who has no better job to do……

This phase in my life also changed, for the past two years as far as I can remember I haven’t shouted at anybody for advising me to change my habit….. I simply look at them when they give me advise and nod my head, at the most if the advise they are giving me is pathetically long, I try stopping it by telling them things like “what to do I didn’t have a nice intelligent considerate person like you in my childhood to give me such a wonderful piece of advise……”

Wish I could see it again!!!

2006-05-02T22:35:00.000-07:00

I was standing there in the open…..gazing blankly at the open space that lay in front of me, wondering what lay there….. the cold air around me was clawing my skin and was roaring in my ears practically making it impossibly for me to hear any other sound….. but still something within me was asking me to stay there for some more time….. each and ever muscle in my body was straining against the wind…… my body ached, I started walking towards that abyss risking my life, for there was no source of light, I was panting……. I had walked quite a distance and my lungs were in want of oxygen…. For the oxygen content was very low…… but still something inside me urged me to stay there for sometime and wait for the nature to unfurl its mystiques……

Then suddenly like a crystal ball being illuminated by a pleasant crimson light the blank space around me was illuminated with pleasant dim light, thus gracefully the rays of the sun were announcing the arrival of the sun.

And behold!!! the scene before me!!! It was one of the best I had seen so far….!!!! Can there be anything much more beautiful then this??? I was rooted to the spot…. I couldn’t take my eyes away from it……

The soft rays of the sun was playing with the snow capped mountains…… and the effect it produced was eye captivating…… A Niffler would have lost its head over the place around for it looked as though the mountain was scattered with gold!!!!

Slowly the sun started making its way through the clouds and as it started making its full precence the peculiar combination that the rays of the sun and the snow was making was slowly vanishing from sight and I could hear distant sounds of people approaching and suddenly with a pang of disappointment I realized that I had stood there for a long time and I had to go back, for a long and tedious day awaited me but then the day turned out to be adventurous……….

Girls.....!!!!!

2006-05-02T19:34:00.000-07:00

My previous post was about how guys behave strangely in some situations. It would be unfair on my part if I don’t point out the attitude with which girls perceive things. So here is an appraisal of girls from my point of view.

Girls become sensitive for all wrong reasons...., just in good humour you point out things… it becomes a big issue….. You got to be very calculative as to what you say to a girl.

Incident 1

Recently I changed my cell number….. I smsed everybody, informing the change in my number, one of them messaged me back asking me as to which Nivedita I am (Since she knew some three to four of them by this name).

I messaged her back-

“ I am your classmate”

She-

“Oh! You are 540 right! Now I remember!!!”

Me (I smiled and replied back)-

“ Now a days I feel like I am a prisoner”

She-

“why so?”

Me-

“People seem to remember me by my registration number rather than my name”

(It was in good humour that I did state the above thing)

She (took it seriously and replied)-

See, no no it is not like that.. people ask your number because to know who you are since there are too many people with your name, it is not because they want to treat you like that, You must not feel so… they don’t call you by your number right? It is just that they want to verify it… (so on and on and on)

I totally gave up in life!!! :d

Note : I don’t know how her reaction will be if she reads this blog. Hope she takes it in good humour :|

General incidents

Sometime it happens such that some of them stop talking to you suddenly that you would be amused as to why it is so. Then you got to slowly go behind them talk with them and they will again start talking to you nicely after a period of one week or one month or one year…. it depends…… I think the problem with us girls is that, we expect others to be the way we want them to be, in the wake of criticizing the imperfection of others we tend to forget that we ourselves are imperfect. We got to understand something, that everybody is human and can make mistakes and one must have the heart to forget it and forgive them and not keep nagging at it, for sometime in future or in past we would find our self in exactly the same position.

There were three things that compelled me to write this post.

1) I already have stated that in the beginning of this post.

2) One of my friends suddenly stopped talking to me for reasons unknown to me.

3) I noticed two things today morning(after which I immediately started writing this blog). Following are the two incidents.

Incident 2

I had invited one of my friends to orkut sometime back, I scrapped her and forgot about it, after a few days, when I was going through my friends list, I noticed her name and then clicked her profile and saw that she had deleted all my scraps to her , I was amused for as far as I knew, she had no offensive scraps ( I agree some of them like to have their scrapbooks empty),

I again scrapped-

“hey.. hi, you busy with your C.A. examination? Why is it that you are not replying to my scraps and moreover deleted them?”

She (deleted this one also and didn’t reply back)

Me(I became very curious and scrapped her back)-

what ma no replies to my scrap only? and moreover deleted all my scraps?? Huh again angry with me for some reason?

She (finally replied that too in her own scrapbook)-

“ i am busy with my cousins marriage. keep mailing i shall contact u back. any ways u dont send any sensible ones. of them?”

…………

Sensible? Huh!!!

Setting new standards!!! I never knew scraps were supposed to be sensible enough so that a person can reply!!!

Incident 3

This one I think is common to both sex. People say keep in touch at the end of a chat or while writing a mail…., well said. We ought to keep in touch…. I can go to any feasible extent to keep in touch with a person but sometimes I feel the other person should take atleast fraction of the efforts I take to keep in touch with them. There is one particular friend of mine, who happened to be my classmate in my 11^th and 12^th , initially when I left school I tried keeping in touch with her by calling her and it happened so that most of the times she wouldn’t be available at home and I used to end up talking to her mom but then as far as I remember not even once had she returned my calls… I have got no issues with it, she might have been busy with hundreds of other things and I cannot except others to be so jobless like me. :p .

But then after a long time she had suddenly mailed me yesterday, I opened her mail, the mail went on like this-

Hi d nive!!!!!!!

How r ya? this is (xxx) d.. keep mailing.. keep in touch... my mobile balance is really low.. tot of callin u tat day itself.... how is coll life d? convey my regards to ur da, mom n bro... keep in touch.... ll meet u one day... tak care honey.... Keep faith!!!!!!

....................

Keep mailing!!! Huh? Keep in touch!!! Huh? Keep faith in what? .....I don’t know with what audacity she told me this!!!!

Anyways I am happy she atleast took pains to mail me of her own accord. :)

Orkutting Exploits

2006-04-23T03:38:00.000-07:00

Orkut is the best place of entertainment for jobless people like me. At least it keeps me occupied for about an hour or so. I tend to randomly view profiles and communities.

A. (We might view profiles for various reasons.)

1. The person we are looking at is striking handsome

2. something funny about the persons Picture

3. Some inclination to view the profile.

B. (After viewing the profile)

1. We might feel the person is very interesting

2. We might spot something very funny in the profile

3. We might feel the profile is very poorly formed and that the person is not worth our attention, inspite of which we might want to make statements.

I am here to quote a few incidents that had happened pertaining to the last two proportions of Sec.A

and sec.B.

First Incident

One day a few months ago I was going through the member list of NCC community that I suddenly felt something was wrong in one of the pictures. I logged on to that profile and saw that the guy was in his NCC uniform and he was wearing the scarf wrongly around his neck. I smiled to myself and scrapped him, pointed that out to him in good humour.

The guy immediately sent me a message on a serious note, opposing my theory.

I was slightly taken aback and started grinning. I didn’t mean any offense, but then this was also not new to me, people often take my sarcastic comments seriously. This was another such case wherein it had happened. More so it happens mostly with girls and not that frequently among guys.

After seeing his private message I again scrapped him saying, the position of the scarf is not correct. He took my comments too seriously and deleted my scraps and started messaging me privately saying that

“am wearing the scarf properly, anyway I will go and verify that with my officers”.

“actually i hv wear it properly but while taking snaps(photo) its somehow has changed its position”

“no i thinks dat its ok

somehow it may has changed

& its is in my room.”

“no i am not giving d cook & bull stories .

d position of scrap can't b changed but during taking snap (in my room) some how its changed”

“ok i will send u a new photo with d correct position of scrap within few days”

I was surprised as to how influential my comments had been!!! As in the meantime his friend came for his rescue…..

“hii nivi...WHY R U SO INVESTIGATIN ON NCC DRESSES...

MY FRND IS TOTALLY CONFUSED...WHO R U??WANNA KNOW ABT U”

Second Incident

Recently I came across a profile, which was very funny.

Relationship Status : Committed

Ideal Match : badsoorat ladkiyon ko main reject karta hoon khoobsoorat ladkiyan mujhe

accept nahi karti waise kabhi try nahi kiya

( Meaning I reject girls who are not good looking and good- looking girls

reject and btw I had never tried)

I couldn’t resist the temptation and went and scrapped him telling that “ try kiye bina committed kise ho gaye?” ( Meaning without trying how did you get committed)

He immediately scrapped me telling

“ My conversations had never gone beyond YM and Orkut”

( He deleted all my scraps and a few of his)-

Me- “your scrap has no relevance to what I asked”

(He deleted this scrap also of mine) and sent me a Private Message-

“my frds are very country level kisi bhi bandi ko mere scrapbook me

dekhte hi us bandi ko pain marna suru kar dete hain .. it has happened so many times .. that's why i don't want to keep ur scrap .. btw main bhi wahi kaam karta hoon unke saath“

How considerate people can be! :-P

Note- these two people took my comments seriously but the person below was different.

Third Incident

The above two incidents can be categorized under 2A and 2B.

But this profile was something different it can be categorized under 3A and 2B.

His Profile :-

About Me: If there is a worse time for something to go wrong, it will happen then.

The Murphy Philosophy

Smile . . . tomorrow will be worse.

Quantization Revision of Murphy's Laws

Everything goes wrong all at once.

Ideal Match: maybe u....

As usual I couldn’t resist myself and scrapped him

“"ideal match: maybe you?" huh. what if it is a guy who is going through your profile. .

going by your "about me" Murphy's law, what if it is a despo gay who is looking at that. “

He replied saying-

“oh..how u ppl think!!!!”

And his Ideal Match went like this- “maybe u....(if u r a girl)”

Humanity

2006-04-18T05:35:00.000-07:00

From the innermost recess of the heart,

When the feeling humanity arises,

The very element of ego perishes,

That is what our ancient religion preaches,

With the poisonous rope of the dark lord,

He drags the mankind towards the darkyard,

To be absorbed into the timeless abode .

Ah! What an act of humanity!!
with the raising perils of the human life,

Adding dishonesty to make it spice,

And gathering lies like heaps of rice.

To be precise,

The divine quality of human race,

Has been crushed by the speed of devils pace,

Indeed a great act of humanity!!

What a thing to take place in this world of lustful haste,

Has humanity become a thing of past,

Has it lost its divine touch?

No it hasn’t,

It still lives in the heart of tender souls,

To be bloomed and blossomed,

Into ever glowing flowers,

And to be tended by our innocent our innocent offsprings.

Ever lasting memories……

2006-04-17T05:27:00.000-07:00

Some memories are like the fragrance from the garden. We go and spend sometime in the garden. Enjoy the scenic beauty around us and when we come out of the garden the fragrance of the flowers follows us and linger around us for sometime…..

But then a few other memories are etched in our hearts and cannot be erased…. At last the day had come… the day I had been looking forward to for the past one week.

I remember vividly “….so we have a seat vacant……” I couldn’t believe my ears!!! It was a dream I had been dreaming for the past one year….. I couldn’t believe my ears!!!! For one second I thought I was dreaming…. But no it was reality….. It was a dream come true…

Others around me were contemplating and were reluctant....... My friends started thinking “ only one of us is allowed to go, no friend to accompany me………. How can I go I don’t know Hindi well….. It is so faraway from home, will I be able to make it…….”

Slowly the realization dawned upon me that it was reality and not a dream, as soon as I came back to my senses immediately my hand shot up “senior , I would like to go senior”…..and that was the beginning….

After going through the paper work I was all set to go ….. I was about to undertake a long journey wherein I was to travel with 8 unknown people from various parts of Tamil Nadu…. A journey that was about to influence my life…….

Each and every second of the 25 days I spent on the journey was a new experience for me, thought me new things in life….

Heart Throbbing Scene

2006-04-11T12:20:00.000-07:00

What a merry day,
I was cycling down the bay,
With a hum in my lips,
Which was filled with my spirits,
But suddenly................
Oh! What a sight to see,
Indeed a ghastly scene.
I had a sick feeling,
unknown fear of a strange thing,
I was rooted to the spot,
With a sudden jolt.
That was a forlorn lady,
Who was left to the mystical destiny,
Sprawled on the sand,
Gone into a trans state,
Alas! it was her fate.
Her body was trodded by the galloping bus,
her soul was absorbed into the gulping space.
Her skull was blast open,
And the blood was cast strewn,
Days after that clinching sight,
I was haunted by her pitiable plight,
What a death it was,
What a sight it was!!!